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| Quote ="Sadfish"I thought the campaign came after Terrys death.'"
Indeed. But in other words, it took a tragic loss of life to create a campaign.
That's not a criticism a all, BTW, but it suggests a traumatic path that requires a tragedy to trigger it.
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| Quote ="Marcus Notsquare"In one of Robbie Savages interviews he said that Speed was alwaye there to help other, why coudn't he have just spoken to someone himself.'"
Suicide doesn't just happen to people who know they have issues though. A women in my work lost her mother to suicide this year, she was happy as larry, had just seen the Grandchild she'd always wanted born and was really looking forward to a family holiday that she'd planned. One day she just stepped over the side of the motorway bridge she crossed almost daily, no one could believe it.
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| Quote ="Mintball"Indeed. But in other words, it took a tragic loss of life to create a campaign.
That's not a criticism a all, BTW, but it suggests a traumatic path that requires a tragedy to trigger it.'"
Absolutely.
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| Quote ="Saddened!"Suicide doesn't just happen to people who know they have issues though. A women in my work lost her mother to suicide this year, she was happy as larry, had just seen the Grandchild she'd always wanted born and was really looking forward to a family holiday that she'd planned. One day she just stepped over the side of the motorway bridge she crossed almost daily, no one could believe it.'"
SRI's can develop unchecked over years either by the person or their friends, then suddenly a trigger will set it all off, and within 10 mins the person has hung themselves at worst or broken down to someone they know etc...
Sadly it seems the more high profile a person is the more likely they don't confide in anyone.
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| Anyone who hasn't seen it, have a look at the article Stan Collymore wrote on his twitter about depression. It really brings it home and it is very poignant considering it was written yesterday.
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| Wow, can't believe this. One of my heros.
I remember meeting him as a child, when he used to come and do his bit for welsh football by watching my local team Colwyn Bay.
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| Quote ="Mintball"Indeed. But in other words, it took a tragic loss of life to create a campaign.
That's not a criticism a all, BTW, but it suggests a traumatic path that requires a tragedy to trigger it.'"
A fair point well put, Minty, but the problem is that you often don't know such a thing is required until something tragic happens.
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| I'd not had the TV on most of yesterday morning so when my flatmate texted "Have you seen about Gary Speed?", my first thought was that he'd resigned / been sacked - nothing like what had actually happened. After turning on the TV, my jaw just dropped.
I was about 9/10 when I started watching Leeds United and Gary was one of my favourite players. He was a gifted player, an honest player and someone who seemed to always have time for the fans (I seem to remember being on one of Leeds United's soccer camps in the school holidays and Speed making an apperance). I just couldn't believe that, at 42, one of my boyhood heroes had gone.
I know a lot more about mental health problems that I'd like to and I can't begin to imagine what Gary was going through to do what he did or what his family are going through now. If it is a long term thing, then it is common for people to try and "mask" the problem, especially for someone who is in both a relatively "macho" environment and someone who is in the public eye and pressured into giving off the "right" image. If this has come about because of press intrusion.... I don't want to post what I think of those responsible.
At a time when so many professional footballers are, to be frank, complete c**ks, it is easy to forget about good people like Gary Speed.
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| Reading the papers today you would never know that a soldier was killed in action yesterday.
A wealthy ex footballer who it would appear had everything kills himself and it steals the headlines. Sad I will accept but is it worthy of the front page.
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| It's easy to bag the press, but they wouldn't do it if there wasn't demand for it. Celebrity scandals sell papers bizarely. The longer people continue to buy such rubbish, the longer they'll keep churning it up.
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| Quote ="wire quin"Reading the papers today you would never know that a soldier was killed in action yesterday.
A wealthy ex footballer who it would appear had everything kills himself and it steals the headlines. Sad I will accept but is it worthy of the front page.'"
It is generally accepted that some soldiers will lose their lives in conflict. That is not to trivialise it, of course, but it is an expected outcome for a percentage of troops on active service. Generally speaking, it is not expected that successful, outwardly happy young men will take their own lives. The fact that he was a famous footballer/manager makes it more newsworthy (though no more tragic) than had it been an unknown member of the public.
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| Quote Generally speaking, it is not expected that successful, outwardly happy young men will take their own lives'"
If Gazza killed himself tonight that wouldnt be that unexpected (yes I know) but you could bet that would also be front page headlines.
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| Quote ="Saddened!"It's easy to bag the press, but they wouldn't do it if there wasn't demand for it. Celebrity scandals sell papers bizarely. The longer people continue to buy such rubbish, the longer they'll keep churning it up.'"
I actually don't think that's the case. I think people buy what they are given to buy and what they are told to buy. Nobody really sat around 50 years ago with an unidentified, unfulfilled craving for Z list celebrity gossip eating away at their soul. If it all went away tomorrow and never came back we wouldn't miss it at all.
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| Quote ="wire quin"Reading the papers today you would never know that a soldier was killed in action yesterday.
A wealthy ex footballer who it would appear had everything kills himself and it steals the headlines. Sad I will accept but is it worthy of the front page.'"
Any number of other people will have died yesterday too. Some by their own hand, others through violent acts and still others by natural causes.
Maybe we should rewind 100 years or so and print classifieds on the front page?
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| Maybe we could.
Either way its a personal decision that he has made that maybe shouldn't have got the headlines- Just a personal thought.
I suspect we will now get the Samaritan adverts and mental health machine rolling along on the back of it. "Speak to Frank"
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| Quote ="Rock God X"It is generally accepted that some soldiers will lose their lives in conflict. That is not to trivialise it, of course, but it is an expected outcome for a percentage of troops on active service. Generally speaking, it is not expected that successful, outwardly happy young men will take their own lives. The fact that he was a famous footballer/manager makes it more newsworthy (though no more tragic) than had it been an unknown member of the public.'"
I think this is an excellent post. I find the military toll appalling. I think I've made that clear before. But this is totally unexpected, which makes it far more shocking.
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| Quote ="wire quin"
Either way its a personal decision that he has made that maybe shouldn't have got the headlines- Just a personal thought.
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He was quite famous and very popular. Of course it was going to make the headlines.
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| And I don't think it can be classed as merely a 'personal decision'. When someone takes their own life, they do so because of profound mental illness, not as a result of any decision making process worthy of the description.
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| Quote ="Rock God X"And I don't think it can be classed as merely a 'personal decision'. When someone takes their own life, they do so because of profound mental illness, not as a result of any decision making process worthy of the description.'"
Often they do go through a decision making process but its flawed and they will genuinely believe that they are acting in the best interests of their family. They really do believe "they will be better off without me"
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| Quote ="wire quin"Reading the papers today you would never know that a soldier was killed in action yesterday.
A wealthy ex footballer who it would appear had everything kills himself and it steals the headlines. Sad I will accept but is it worthy of the front page.'"
Quote ="wire quin"Either way its a personal decision that he has made that maybe shouldn't have got the headlines- Just a personal thought.'"
I can't work out what your issue is. Every soldier who dies should be mourned. I can't see why you have chosen to link the two (other than it involves death).
Gary Speed, for whatever reason (and I'm pretty sure it will eventually become apparent) took his own life. Considering that he is well-known and it was completely unexpected then yes, it is news-worthy.
I don't think that his untimely death is 'stealing the headlines' and to be honest in the cold light of day I hope that you can see that particular comment is disrespectful and ill-judged.
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| Quote ="wire quin"Maybe we could.
Either way its a personal decision that he has made that maybe shouldn't have got the headlines- Just a personal thought.
I suspect we will now get the Samaritan adverts and mental health machine rolling along on the back of it. "Speak to Frank"'"
Look mate, just because your previous employer has never, until recently, given a tuppenny sh[ii[/it about the the mental wellbeing of their employees, doesn't detract from what is a tragic loss of a life. Remember it's less than 100 years since the army were lining up soldiers with shell-shock and shooting them. Maybe they should've just manned-up eh?
But congratulations on stamping you big macho size 10s, all over a thread yet again, I bet you feel all big & hard now
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| Quote ="Cibaman"Often they do go through a decision making process but its flawed and they will genuinely believe that they are acting in the best interests of their family. They really do believe "they will be better off without me"'"
That's why I said 'any decision making process worthy of the description'. I understand that a decision of sorts must be reached in order for a person to take his own life, but the point I was making was that there is no process that anyone who wasn't mentally ill would recognise as remotely rational.
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| Quote ="cod'ead"Look mate, just because your previous employer has never, until recently, given a tuppenny sh[ii[/it about the the mental wellbeing of their employees, doesn't detract from what is a tragic loss of a life. Remember it's less than 100 years since the army were lining up soldiers with shell-shock and shooting them. Maybe they should've just manned-up eh?
But congratulations on stamping you big macho size 10s, all over a thread yet again, I bet you feel all big & hard now'"
Without wishing to denegrate the job that the armed forces do, I'm getting a little tired of the macho and (to an extent) 'superior' chip on the shoulder that some members seem to carry. I've actually just deleted an acquaintance from my Facebook friends list who kept posting status updates which basically labelled people who choose to gain a university eduction as being inferior to soldiers who join up at school-leaving age. Nauseating. No-one understimates the job that the armed forces do, but there's no need to ram it down our throats at every opportunity.
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| Maybe I should remove my daughters FB based upon the fact she is draining my money at Uni!Get in the Army softy!
RIP Speedy you were a good guy and its sad that there was no outlet for you in a moment of need-Does that add to the thread as you would like Coddy
Lets now lambast the lack of spending on mental health issues-Cameron you To**er
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| Quote ="wire quin"Maybe I should remove my daughters FB based upon the fact she is draining my money at Uni!Get in the Army softy!
RIP Speedy you were a good guy and its sad that there was no outlet for you in a moment of need-Does that add to the thread as you would like Coddy
Lets now lambast the lack of spending on mental health issues-Cameron you To**er'"
give it a rest.
start a new thread and stop de-railing if you feel the need to put alternative points across.
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